Friday, July 1, 2011

My English Assignment

Jordanne Baxter
English 2010
Melissa Helquist
July 1st, 2011

A topic that I hold closely to my heart is child abuse. I don’t think a lot of people truly understand the ramifications of child abuse. Most people, me included, only think of child abuse as being physical abuse of a child. However, there are so many other types of child abuse. The most common being neglect. My purpose of posting this discussion to really educate my family and friends on child abuse, also to make a commitment to never abuse my children. Hopefully, many others can make a conscious effort to really take to heart the same goal.


This chart really helped me understand the different kinds of child abuse. I know several people who were physically abused and sexually abused. These children grow up really struggling with self worth and self esteem problems. These are the mildest forms of repercussions of those forms of abuse. I will post statistics further down about the outcomes of most abused children. Neglect is the largest form of child abuse. As a mother, this breaks my heart. Children relish the love and comfort they get from parents. To deny anything so pure of this is unfair, and wrong. The ironic thing is that most parents who do this keep having children and the older children end up parenting with very minimal skills their younger siblings.
If you are on Facebook or any other social networking site, I am sure you have been you have seen the links to local groups against child abuse. This is usually because of a local tragedy of a physically or sexually abused child. I remember last year the heart breaking story of Ethan Stacy. http://www2.tricities.com/news/2010/may/14/father_of_ethan_stacy_i_didnt_have_any_choice-ar-234385/
This really hit me hard because it was so horrific and close to home. I can’t imagine what that poor family must have gone through knowing they’d still have a little boy if they were able to keep him home with his real father.
Statistics of child abuse victims are what really get me motivated to educate all those who need it on child abuse.
·         A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds.
·         Almost five children die every day as a result of child abuse. More than three out of four are under the age of 4.
·         It is estimated that between 60-85% of child fatalities due to maltreatment are not recorded as such on death certificates.
·         90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way; 68% are abused by family members.
·         Child abuse occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education.
·         31% percent of women in prison in the United States were abused as children.
·         Over 60% of people in drug rehabilitation centers report being abused or neglected as a child.
·         About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.
·         About 80% of 21 year old that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.
·         The estimated annual cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States for 2007 is $104 billion.
·         Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy.
·         Abused teens are 3 times less likely to practice safe sex, putting them at greater risk for STDs.
·         14% of all men in prison in the USA were abused as children
·         36% of all women in prison were abused as children
·         Children who experience child abuse & neglect are 59% more likely to be arrested as a juvenile, 28% more likely to be arrested as an adult, and 30% more likely to commit violent crime.

·         Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy
·         Abused teens are 3 times less likely to practice safe sex, putting them at greater risk for STDs
·         Children who have been sexually abused are2.5 times more likely to abuse alcohol 
·         Children who have been sexually abused are3.8 times more likely develop drug addictions
·         Nearly two-thirds of the people in treatment for drug abuse reported being abused as children

These statistics are enough to make me feel sick. Like I mentioned earlier the ramifications of child abuse is really disgusting. Not only do I want to inform everyone reading to get a commitment not to abuse their own children, but also learn how to break the cycle. 30% of children who were abused will abuse their own children. With the rate of child abuse constantly on the rise, it’s important for all those were abused to really seek the help they need to overcome abusing their own children.
If you are someone you know has been abused, don’t be afraid to bring this up as a topic as conversation. If we all helped those who have been abused heal, or talked about coping methods for parenting children we could really make a huge dent in the number of victims of child abuse. Sometimes those who are abusing their children really don’t know where to turn for help to get the parenting skills and life management skills they need to stop. I found most of my information at www.childhelp.org
There are plenty of other resources like counseling or local religious forums that would love to help. Be the help that needs to happen to stop child abuse. 

Monday, August 30, 2010

Maybe I'm a perv!

So last week I met up at the Zoo with a new friend, her little boy and my boys.... This is the first time I had actually hung out with my new friend. I met her at Target a few weeks ago. Anyways, while we were walking through the Zoo we get to the Giraffe's. Which, let's be honest are kinda funny looking. Cute though. Standing in front of us is this giant male giraffe, just relaxing eating some leaf's from the tree. To the right of him is a smaller female giraffe just kinda standing there looking confused...Well my new friend says to me, "when we came to the zoo last week, they told us that the female is probably pregnant." My reply wasn't your typical "oh, that's cool." or "cute, a baby giraffe" Mine was........ "Really? (Long Pause) I wonder what that looks like when they're doing it." As a visual of these two giraffes standing in front of me pops into my head. I couldn't help but laugh. I think this statement completely changed my new friends view of me. Ha Ha. Maybe it's just me, but don't you think that would be quite interesting to see? However, as interesting as it may be I haven't Googled it, or youtubed it. I don't know if we will be going on anymore playdates. Yet to hear back from my new friend. So, maybe I am a little bit of a pervert.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Good-bye Hell!

A year ago today, I gave birth to my little boy Boston. Since there was only 18 months between my boys, I decided I needed a very reliable birth control. We had been using other birth control before, and it had failed us. After Boston turned 6 weeks old, my OB okay'd me to get the Mirena IUD. I was excited to not have to worry about getting pregnant. Little did I know, this little device would cause one the worst experiences in my life. For along time I thought I was just suffering really bad from Postpartum depression. I even took anti-depressants and nothing improved. Every month, I just kept telling myself I will feel like myself soon. I thought maybe, I just can't handle two little boys like I could with one. Before my IUD, I was always being told how patient and loving of a mother I was. In the last year, all patience has left me. My depression and anxiety rate sky rocketed. I became so mean at times I couldn't even believe I was acting in ways I never had before. I had NO PATIENCE. I was constantly cramping and severely bloated, constantly getting infections and fatigued. It was a challenge to get out of bed everyday. I honestly didn't even recognize myself. I felt like a horrible parent and spouse. Many people noticed a change in my personality. My memory was gone, and I always felt like there was a fog in my head. Initially, I lost all my baby weight within a couple months, and I kept weight off for a while. Then, in the last month I gained at least 12 pounds!! Holy cow, this made me feel even more miserable about myself. Weight gain is one of the biggest side effects. I hadn't changed eating habits and actually was more fit, but not to the point that I packed on muscle weight. Every month towards the end I kept telling myself I will get it taken out when I get insurance in August. Well, insurance in August never happened for a few reasons. At this point, I was just done. I decided I will just pay the whole amount to get it out, as soon as possible! I researched this topic, and there are thousands/millions of women with the same problems from Mirena. There is even a coalition for a class action suit against the company. It's because the hormone found in the IUD causes the body to think it's pregnant with a synthetic (fake) hormone. This same hormone, causes all your other hormones to be thrown off and has been proven to cause cancer.The funny thing is, their slogan is, "keep life simple." It sure did not keep my life simple! On average 2/10 people with this IUD have the same side effects I had. Well, two weeks ago I had this little destroyer removed!! Within in two days I felt a difference. And, at two weeks after I almost feel completely like myself. YAY!!! I've lost 5 pounds of the weight it made me gain and I can't wait to get rid of the rest. I honestly feel like I have hope again. My patience is coming back!! I feel so bad for my family that they had to put up with me this way. I can honestly tell you it was destroying my marriage. Thank you Nathan for being a trooper. I hope to be fully restored very soon! Not all women have this problem, some women love it. But, if you are thinking about it. Really do your research. I can give you numerous other women who have experienced what I have. I love feeling good again!!!

Sunday, August 15, 2010

To Start off the new week....


Was she going for a thong or bikini?
Sexy right?

Kisses for Cami

A friend posted this link the other day http://www.kissesforcami.com/ and I read it and learned about this beautiful little girl and her battle with Leukemia. She is local, so if you'd like to follow the story or donate. Just click on the link.

A year ago

A year ago today, I looked like this!!

In some ways it seems like it's been a long year and in others, I can't believe it!
When I am pregnant, especially at this stage (6 days before baby) I hate it, and afterwards SOMETIMES I miss it. It's weird how that works. Cute little bump!